Saturday, April 30, 2016

Class #4 - The Five Teaching Styles

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The Five Teaching Styles:

A.    Effective Praise 
(See Class #3 Notes)
B.    Pre-teaching
C.    Corrective Teaching
D.    Intensive teaching
E.    Counseling

A.    Effective Praise -This teaching style gets the best results.  It is important that it be used 6-10 times for every 1 corrective teaching interaction.

Steps:
1.     Initial praise.  (I like the way you handled that situation. )

2.     Specific description of appropriate skill.  ( What you just did was you looked at your sister, you kept a calm face and a calm voice.  You said OK and then dropped the subject.)

3.     Rationales.  ( Because you problem solved so well, you and your sister will be able to have a longer play time because no one got angry.)



4.     Acknowledgment.  ( Does this make sense?)

5.     Positive consequence.  (You’ve earned 15 minutes extra of play time with your sister before bed, because you knew how to get along.)

6.     General Praise.  ( You really did fantastic!)

   7.  Quality components B Remember to use good eye contact, good voice tone, and possibly use some touch.

B.  Pre-teaching - Pre-teaching is the second most effective style of teaching.  If you can pre-teach the situation before you have a problem, then you will significantly decrease your chances of having a problem behavior!

            Steps:

1.     Initial praise/empathy.  (I know that you are excited to go to the party...)

2.     Positive motivation statement.  (So that we will be able to stay the whole time, we should discuss what our behavior should be like.)

3.     Specific description of appropriate skill.  (When you are playing with your friends outside, you usually do a lot of running and jumping.  At the party you need to walk carefully and only sit on the furniture.  No jumping.)

4.     Rationales.  ( If you start jumping on furniture and running around we will probably not get invited to a party at Aunt Janelle’s again, because she will be afraid that something will get broken.  We will also need to leave early if you run and jump in her house, because mom will not be able to have a good time at the party, because she will be worried about what you are doing.)
5.     Demonstration.  ( This is the best way to play with friends at the party.   Show now.)

6.     Youth practice (3 times).  ( Let’s practice.  First I will be you and you get to be Aunt Janelle. You invite me in and I will behave appropriately.  Practice.  Now you be you and I will be Aunt Janelle.  I will invite you in and you behave appropriately.  Practice.  Now let’s practice sitting calmly on the couch.  You be you and I will be your cousin Parker. )

7.     Practice feedback.  (You did great at practicing your polite behavior!  You Walked calmly and sat on the couch like a lady and you even knew to talk in a quieter voice and I didn’t even have to remind you.) 

8.     Positive consequence.  (Because you did such a great job practicing, I know that you will not need to stay right by me at the party.  I can trust you to walk around with your cousins, because I know you know how to behave.)

9.     Cued practice.  (At the party I will come up to you and ask you what the appropriate behavior is and I need you to be able to tell me, OK?)

10. General Praise.  (This was so easy for you! I knew you were old enough to behave yourself at an adult party.  Good Job!)

11.  Quality Components.  Eye contact, voice tone, touch etc.

C. Corrective teaching:  Remember that for every corrective you need to be doing at least 6-10 effective praise interactions.  If you only concentrate on corrective teaching the youth will become discouraged and stop trying.  Focusing on the successes when ever possible increases the level of motivation.  That in mind also remember to keep your tolerances low.  This means that with some children you will need to look for anything and everything to give them praise about. ( Great job on remembering to buckle your seat belt!  Etc.)

Steps:                 

1.     Initial praise/empathy.  ( You did a wonderful job remembering to make your bed as soon as you got up.)

2.     Specific description of inappropriate behavior.  (However, just now when I asked you to do your morning chore, you didn’t look at me and you didn’t say OK, and you didn’t do the task immediately, and you didn’t check back.)

3.     Consequence.  (You have earned 10 minutes in time out for not following instructions.)

4.     Positive motivation statement.  ( We are going to talk about following instructions so that you can earn half of those minutes back.  Then you will only have to do 5 minutes instead of 10.)

5.     Specific description of appropriate skill.  ( What you should have done was looked at the person, had a calm voice and a calm face, said OK, done the task immediately, and checked back after you were finished.)

6.  Rationales.  (If you do this you will get your chore done much faster, because we will not need to take all of this time to talk about it.)
7.  Acknowledgment. (Tell me why following instructions is important.)

8.  Demonstration.  (Let’s practice.  You give me an instruction and I will show you the correct behavior.

9.  You Practice ( 2-3 times).  ( Now I am going to give you some instructions to follow so that you can practice.   For your first practice, I need you to tell me the steps to following instructions.  Practice.  For your second practice, I need you to try to rub your tummy and pat your head.  Practice.   Now can you please straighten the pillows on the couch.  Practice.)

10.  Practice Feedback talk during practices. ( You didn’t forget one step!  You looked at the person, kept a calm voice and a calm face, said OK, did the tasks immediately, and checked back every time.  WOW!)

11.  Positive consequence.  (Because you were so terrific, you have earned 5 minutes back.  You will only need to sit on time out for 5 minutes now instead of 10. )

12.  Cued Practice.  (Some time today I will ask you to follow another instruction that you are not planning on, so that you will never forget how to follow instructions.)

13.  General Praise.  (You really knew those steps, Great job.)

14.  Quality components.  (Eye contact, calm voice, touch, etc.)

D.  Intensive teaching:  This style is used when the youth is “Out of Instructional Control.”  This means that no instructions are being followed.  (Depressed and won’t talk, yells and throws things, bad language, scowls or cries etc.)  The goal is to get the youth calm and in control of her behaviors.  If even a small instruction will be followed, try to build on that by praise to increase motivation.    A family economy must be set up prior to these interactions.  The parents set them up and then present them to the family in family meeting.  A separate teaching time is recommended also to help the youth understand exactly how it works. 





Steps :                              

1.     Quality components.  Use good eye contact, calm pleasant voice (not happy), Use logic. It is the Adults responsibility to be logical not the youths. 

2.     Empathy/ praise.  ( I can see that you are upset and want to talk to me.)

3.     Specific description of the youths current behavior. ( You are clenching your teeth, and your fists, you aren’t keeping eye contact with me and you aren’t following instructions.)

4.     Consequence .  (Because you are not able to follow instructions right now you have earned 20 minutes in time out.)

5.     Pre-teach .  ( I am going to give you 1 minute to get ready to follow instructions, and then I will ask you to follow an instruction.  If you don’t follow the instruction, then you will earn 20 minutes in time out and an extra chore.  Then I will ask you to follow another instruction.  If you choose not to follow the third instruction, then you will earn 20 minutes in time out, an extra chore, and you will loose all of your privileges for 24 hours.)

6.  Second Instruction. ( Quin, I need you to open your fists.)
**  If this goes well, then build on it.  Give specific praise and give other instructions until the youth is completely in control.  Then corrective teach the AOut of control” behavior.  Then corrective teach the initial problem.  Then follow through with what has been earned.

6.     Description..  (You did not look at me you did not have a calm voice and face, you did not say OK, and you didn’t check back.

7.     Consequence.  (Because you are not choosing to follow instructions yet, you have earned 20 minutes in time out and an extra chore.)

8.     Pre-teach and empathy.  ( I know that you want the explain how you feel to me, but I can’t talk to you until you can follow instructions.  I am going to give you a minute to get ready to follow instructions, then if you choose not to you will earn 20 minutes time out, an extra chore and loose you privileges for 24 hours.  This means that you will not be able to attend your friend’s birthday party tomorrow.  )

10.  Third Instruction.  (Quin, I need you to open your fists.)
** If this goes well, see above **

11.  Description.  ( You didn’t look at me, you didn’t have a calm voice and face, you didn’t say OK, and you didn’t check back.)

12.  Consequence.  ( Because you didn’t follow the instruction, you have earned 20 minutes, time out, an extra chore and have lost all your privileges for 24 hours.)

 After If the youth goes all the way to losing all of her privs, then she could stay “Out of instructional control” for some time.  Try your very best to not let the youth monopolize your time.  That is usually what kind of control they are seeking with this kind of behavior.  Keep the youth in sight.  If the youth is not dangerous then do other fun things with your other kids to reward them for their good behavior.  i.e. play games, eat snacks, read a story etc. Continue to give following instruction prompts every 10- 20 minutes.

***If the youth attempts to hurt himself, others, or property in your home it might be necessary to do a soft restraint.  Get them to their knees and hug firmly around their arms to control them .  Tell them that you will let go when they can follow a simple instruction.  I hate doing this!  It is always the last resort.  Hopefully your child’s behavior is not aggressive enough to have to practice this.   Don’t ever give in to these behaviors, or the length of them will increase not decrease.  If the teaching is consistent the youth will learn the system quickly.  My children rarely go beyond the first instruction any more.

5 second rule: To keep other children away from the situation we use the “5 second rule”.  This gets rid of an audience and keeps other children from learning bad behaviors.  I call out “5 second rule,” and all the other youth in the home go to their rooms and shut the doors until I come to get them.  They will do it, because when I come to get them I give much praise and usually give some sort of a reward.  (Ice cream etc.)  Just using this rule can stop out of control behavior sometimes.  The youth soon realizes, that when he is bad, everyone else gets rewarded.

F.     Counseling:  This is different than the other styles of teaching, because there aren’t really exact steps to reference to.  Counseling is necessary when dealing with a large issue for the first time.  (Dating, peer problems, school problems, drugs, etc.)  Find a special time to talk one on one before attempting to counsel.  Over the dinner table is not a good time unless you are alone.  It can be as easy as  “Do you want to come out on the porch and have a popsicle with me?” 

1.     Teacher’s responsibilities: For the most part the teacher should strike up conversation and then be a listening ear for a while.  Try to sort out the issue using pros and cons.  Then give gentle advice.  Maybe tell about your youth.  Together make a plan and appropriate consequences.  Don’t judge the youth for her opinions.  You will not be able to make a plan if the youth gets angry.  Show many Quality components and speak with empathy and concern.

2. Counseling can also be effective if an issue hasn’t come up for a long time or right after the steps for Intensive teaching have been completed if necessary.




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